50 Coffees – Natalja Clingen

When I look around I see so many different women who inspire me for so many differenct reasons. I see women that are dynamite career women, others are amazing mothers and wives, others have overcome great ordeals and others live to make a difference in people’s lives. I love to learn from these women and grow from the wisdom they impart when we spend time together. One of those amazing women is the founder of Jolie Partout (read about it at the end of this article), Natalja Clingen, wife, mother of three, image consultant, overcomer and a heart for the ladies around her. She shared her testimony on a powerful women’s morning and it was beautiful. She experienced so many attempts to steal her joy and her God given purpose but she overcame it all. Today we share some of her heart and wisdom.

 

What would you like to achieve in the next ten years in terms of passion and purpose?

I love what I do in doll styling with fashion but my heart and purpose is with Jolie Partout. I want to build it to have a bigger reach. To be big enough to have a hub not just to help people in my local community but I want to help people in other areas as well. Beyond just this community.

 

What would be the ultimate compliment?

Every woman wants to be told that they are such a great proverbs 31 woman but there is one thing that our pastor Janine Bagg mention recently, possibly mother’s day. She said “with the proverbs 31 woman, you are not the whole proverbs 31. It is impossible to be the whole proverbs 31 women”.  Unless you are freaking perfect. She said “even if it is just one aspect, you are a proverbs 31 woman”. That sunk in to my heart and I was like ‘Ok, I can actually call myself that.’ before I never thought I could, because I wasn’t everything in the Proverb. But she said “forget that you are a proverbs 31 woman”. I then decided that I was going to take that as a compliment. But most of all I love hearing that I am a good mom and a good wife.

In your job beautifying women and girls, in your experience what is the most common struggle that women deal with?

Self-worth, almost every single one. Has that “I’m not good enough feeling’

 

What do you tell these ladies to encourage them in dealing with the self-worth issue?

Well, it is best to give advice about things you have experienced before. For me it was spending time with God and getting right with God. To be honest it is the easiest option. I have tried so many times to do it by myself and it doesn’t work.

 

How do you manage your marriage and family, and keep both relationships healthy?

My husband’s love language is words of affirmation, so I have noticed regardless of how much time I spend with my kids or how much I put into my kids when I give my husband that five minute cuddle before I go to bed. I tell him how much I love him and what a great husband he is. Then his love tank is full. I had to learn what his love language was and what he liked. When I figured out what He liked I learned how to manage my household. I could do whatever I wanted with the kids as long as I knew how to deal with my husband. It just gelled.

 

What advice do you have for ladies still looking for their passion and purpose?

Go with what you are interested in but don’t shut the door on other ideas or opportunities either. Many times there were opportunities I was not interested in but it was something that I had to do. Dip your toe in each pool and try everything for a little bit. For me there wasn’t this big moment where I knew it was something I had to do. For years I had the question ‘what am I supposed to do / what is my calling’. I didn’t want to do anything because I only wanted to do my calling. For the main part, I was asking God and waiting. But I had to wait because there was a specific time that I had to start and to run with it. If I knew a few years back I probably would have botched it up. I am still learning and I still make mistakes. This is not my project it is God’s so I am taking it slow.

 

More about Jolie Partout

“Jolie Partout is a charitable organisation where we help and assist women with anything related to beauty, whether it is a matric dance or wedding, we are here to make you feel and look beautiful on your special day. Anyone can write in for help or nominate someone who is in need. Everyone is beautiful and deserves pampering on their special day! Making woman feel beautiful and making them feel like they are worth something on the inside and out is my passion. The happiness and sparkle in the ladies’ eyes after they have had the “make-over” is what I live for. Every woman needs to feel secure with herself and feel like she’s God’s precious pearl.” – Natalja Clingen on Jolie Partout

 

You can get involved by donating dresses, accessories, shoes and more.  For more information or to get involved contact Jolie Partout to get more details at natalja@joliepartout.co.za

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